Asking the Right Questions
Questions are tools of power. They gather information without creating admissions. They shift the burden of proof. They reveal the nature of claims without compromising your position.
Why Questions Matter
| Statements | Questions |
|---|---|
| Create evidence against you | Gather evidence from them |
| Can be used as admissions | Don't admit anything |
| Put you on defense | Put them on defense |
| Show your position | Reveal their position |
| Lock you into a stance | Keep options open |
When you ask questions, the other party must answer. Their answers (or refusal to answer) become evidence. Their inability to answer reveals weakness in their claim. You learn while they expose.
Questions by Category
Clarify who the parties actually are:
Probe the claimed agreement's validity:
The heart of contract validity:
Probe their right to enforce:
Clarify what authority applies:
For monetary claims:
How to Ask
In Writing
- Be specific — Vague questions get vague answers
- Number your questions — Makes non-response to specific items obvious
- Set a deadline — "Please respond within 30 days"
- Note consequences — "Failure to respond will be treated as..."
- Send certified — Create proof of delivery
Verbally (If Necessary)
- Record if legal — Check your state's recording laws
- Take notes — Write down answers immediately
- Follow up in writing — "Per our conversation, you stated..."
- Stay calm — Emotional reactions work against you
- Don't volunteer information — Answer questions with questions
What Their Answers Reveal
Inability to answer fundamental questions (like "what consideration did you provide?") reveals weakness in their claim. Document the non-response.
Refusal to answer ("that's not relevant") may indicate they have something to hide. Note the refusal and consider what it implies.
"Value was exchanged" without specifics isn't an answer. Follow up with "What specifically was exchanged?"
Complete, documented answers suggest a stronger claim. Evaluate whether their position is actually solid.
Questions to Avoid
- Leading questions that assume facts — "Since I owe this debt..." assumes the debt exists
- Questions revealing your strategy — Don't telegraph your arguments
- Questions with emotional charge — "Why are you persecuting me?" invites dismissal
- Questions you don't want answered — Don't ask if you can't handle a bad answer
Building Your Question List
For any claim, develop questions in these areas:
- Identity — Who are the parties?
- Agreement — What was agreed, when, how?
- Consideration — What did each party give?
- Standing — Who can enforce, and why?
- Documentation — What evidence exists?
- Accounting — How are amounts calculated?
- Jurisdiction — What authority applies?
The answers (or non-answers) to these questions form the basis for your strategy.